Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Relationships and Money Advice Columnist and Financial Behavior Specialist
Unconsciously, we often carry our mother's financial anxiety and re-enact our father's financial disappointments. This unconscious process sets us up to repeat similiar patterns of the failed relationships of parents, grandparents and even great-grandparents. Just as we inherit physical characteristics, such as eye color and blood type, we also inherit the left over pain from stressful events that have taken place in our family. The physical traits are easy to recognize, the emotional pain and unconscious patterns are harder to detect.
Unresolved trauma and pain including, some going back two or three generations can control us and cause us unnecessary suffering, depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, financial stress and relationship confllict. If you do not transform your pain, you will almost always transmit it onto others.Take the first step to helping yourself, by learning to stop judging yourself.
I have found that people who suffer from depression, financial anxiety, stress disorders and relationship conflict tend to constantly judge themseleves and judge others in very black and white terms as either good/bad, right/wrong, stupid/smart, lazy/crazy. This negative all or nothing thinking reinforces depression, anxiety and hopelessness.
I have also found that people who have suffered in some way are able to help one another - exactly as the Twelve-Step Program also discovered. Deep connection and compassion is formed much more by shared pain than by shared pleasure.
I have the compassion, and years of professional and personal experience to help you live your life to the fullest.
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